Sunday, March 9, 2014

New Reading Material

Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder and ADDitude Magazine are two on-line resources to review not just for the parent but also for the teacher. (I find it perplexing that there are still teachers who think that this is a behavioral issue).

I am one of those people who will follow-up with "recommendations". If my doctor says 'read this about calcium intake', I read it. If the psychologist says recommends I read materials about AD/HD, that's exactly what I am going to do.

I have a great book called The ADD & ADHD Answer Book. It has been really helpful. I just ordered three more books from Amazon. I am excited to read them.

The first is called The AD/HD Parenting Handbook. I also ordered ADHD: What Every Parent Needs to Know. And on the doctor's suggestion, I ordered a book for the children. It's called The Survival Guide for Kids with AD/HD.

But of course the only book that is never changing is The Bible. It is my comfort, my encouragement and my truth. It is not a matter of opinion.

I was thinking how blessed I am to have so many people in my life who love me and my children. God has specifically chosen a few to walk the same path with me. These ladies KNOW what I am talking about. These ladies LIVE what I am talking about. And for that, I call myself blessed.

Bless my mess, AMEN. I struggle every day to get out of bed. I struggle every day to go to the gym. I struggle every day to make the right food choices. I struggle every day to read my Bible and pray. I might look like I have it all together for some people. It might appear that my life is just whip cream and cherries. But it's not. And I am ok with that. We are not here to compete with each other. It's not "oh she does the Christian stuff better than I do so why should I try" life we need to be living. We need to encourage each other. We need to love each other. And we need to do these things when we don't look our best.

I can 'social fake' myself through this life or I can just be honest with you.

I will not judge you as a parent. I have tried EVERY THING. (and some things twice). I have made a mess out of many situations. I have made the wrong choices. I have lost my patience and screamed and put on my ugly face. But at the end of the day, I know that God still loves me. So for that, I can get up the next morning and try to do better than the day before.

Daniel is our 'second chance, do-over kid'. Everything we did wrong with the first can be done better with the second. Do you ever think like this? Some days when they are both impossible I think 'only if we had a third. For sure they would be different'. There is no truth in that statement. But what is true is that I am a different parent for walking through all of those years of school with Amanda. She has had THREE awesome years since first grade. And let me tell you it's ALL THE TEACHER. Now teachers, don't get mad at me. But I have other parents who can attest to this. When a teacher is already doing the accommodations in the classroom, then what need is there to have a 504 Plan? There is none. But when a teacher is not making accommodations for the students who need them, that's when you need the 504 Plan. And many times I have heard "well, this is my policy". The 504 Plan over-rides policy. Now it just becomes a control issue because I am trying to tell the teacher how to run their classroom.

Don't take offense to that if you are a teacher. Think about it. Learn from it if it applies to you.

This time is different. I am stronger and wiser for all of those tears I cried.

“The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.”
Psalm 34:19 NLT

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