Monday, March 31, 2014

Science vs. God

It is physically impossible to send positive energy to another person. There! I said it.

Sunday, March 9, 2014

New Reading Material

Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder and ADDitude Magazine are two on-line resources to review not just for the parent but also for the teacher. (I find it perplexing that there are still teachers who think that this is a behavioral issue).

I am one of those people who will follow-up with "recommendations". If my doctor says 'read this about calcium intake', I read it. If the psychologist says recommends I read materials about AD/HD, that's exactly what I am going to do.

I have a great book called The ADD & ADHD Answer Book. It has been really helpful. I just ordered three more books from Amazon. I am excited to read them.

The first is called The AD/HD Parenting Handbook. I also ordered ADHD: What Every Parent Needs to Know. And on the doctor's suggestion, I ordered a book for the children. It's called The Survival Guide for Kids with AD/HD.

But of course the only book that is never changing is The Bible. It is my comfort, my encouragement and my truth. It is not a matter of opinion.

I was thinking how blessed I am to have so many people in my life who love me and my children. God has specifically chosen a few to walk the same path with me. These ladies KNOW what I am talking about. These ladies LIVE what I am talking about. And for that, I call myself blessed.

Bless my mess, AMEN. I struggle every day to get out of bed. I struggle every day to go to the gym. I struggle every day to make the right food choices. I struggle every day to read my Bible and pray. I might look like I have it all together for some people. It might appear that my life is just whip cream and cherries. But it's not. And I am ok with that. We are not here to compete with each other. It's not "oh she does the Christian stuff better than I do so why should I try" life we need to be living. We need to encourage each other. We need to love each other. And we need to do these things when we don't look our best.

I can 'social fake' myself through this life or I can just be honest with you.

I will not judge you as a parent. I have tried EVERY THING. (and some things twice). I have made a mess out of many situations. I have made the wrong choices. I have lost my patience and screamed and put on my ugly face. But at the end of the day, I know that God still loves me. So for that, I can get up the next morning and try to do better than the day before.

Daniel is our 'second chance, do-over kid'. Everything we did wrong with the first can be done better with the second. Do you ever think like this? Some days when they are both impossible I think 'only if we had a third. For sure they would be different'. There is no truth in that statement. But what is true is that I am a different parent for walking through all of those years of school with Amanda. She has had THREE awesome years since first grade. And let me tell you it's ALL THE TEACHER. Now teachers, don't get mad at me. But I have other parents who can attest to this. When a teacher is already doing the accommodations in the classroom, then what need is there to have a 504 Plan? There is none. But when a teacher is not making accommodations for the students who need them, that's when you need the 504 Plan. And many times I have heard "well, this is my policy". The 504 Plan over-rides policy. Now it just becomes a control issue because I am trying to tell the teacher how to run their classroom.

Don't take offense to that if you are a teacher. Think about it. Learn from it if it applies to you.

This time is different. I am stronger and wiser for all of those tears I cried.

“The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.”
Psalm 34:19 NLT

Saturday, March 8, 2014

The Word of God

Always timely. Always Truth. This is the Verse of the Day from The Bible Gateway.

[ Comfort in Suffering ] Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NKJV

I am not sure why it is in bold. I guess God wants it that way since I can't fix it.

Friday, March 7, 2014

This is where we stand

"Half the world has AD/HD".

Haven't you heard that statement a million times?

It gets on my nerves. I truly believe that there are many people who don't believe that this is a real thing. I truly believe that many people think that kids will mature and grow out of this phase. I truly believe that people think that it's poor parenting.

It's not.

Daniel has been under the care of a psychologist for the last month. His four teachers and his parents have filled out the Conner's questionnaire.


Daniel meets the behavioral criteria for Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.

The doctor lists twelve accommodations for the school to consider.

Where was this guy ten years ago?

So what happens next? I have provided the school and the pediatrician with the psychologist's report. Daniel will then be evaluated for any condition that could have the symptoms that mimic AD/HD. The school will conduct their own evaluation to rule out a learning disability that mimics AD/HD.

More appointments. More paperwork. More patience. More prayers.

My guy is struggling. When part of the family struggles, it's like a body part is injured. We are all limping. My heart is sad. But still joyful that it's not a life threatening condition. I cry thinking of how tough it will be for him. Yet I am thankful that God chose me to be his mother and help him conquer this.

Amanda has paved the way. HECK, she has blazed the trail, burning it to the ground in some ways. She has bombed and she has blossomed over the past ten years.

We aren't going to "get through this". You don't get through a mountain. You climb a mountain! But the view is awesome once you are at the top.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me". Philippians 4:13 (Daniel's life verse)

I have so much more I want to say. It seems like I have been on auto pilot for months. But I will stop here. Please keep us in your prayers. Pray that I gain the wisdom to handle whatever may be thrown at me. Pray that I can sing hymns when I am in chains. Pray that I can love these children the way that God loves me. Pray that I don't grow weary from doing good. Thanks Friend.

Celebrating Forty-Six

Breakfast with Daniel and Rick

And Jenny!

Thanks to the Portlands for the flowers and desserts.